How to Make People Like You In 90 Seconds Or Less

Synchronizing Attitude

Synchronizing attitudeor multiple congruity, to give it its scientific nametakes into account location and mood. It is also frequently supportive, as when a friend is challenged and you “take a stand” with him, or a parent deeply relates to a child's problem with a class assignment, or you share the exhilaration your partner feels over a promotion. When people “go through things together,” they will often be synchronized right down to primal sighs of despair or shouts of joy.

Pick up on other people's feelings. Synchronize their movements, breathing pattern and expression as you “deeply identify” with them. Tune in to the overall mood suggested by their voice and reflect it back.

synchronizing Body Language

As you already know, body language accounts for 55% of our communication. It is the most obvious, easiest and most rewarding feature to synchronize on your way to rapport. If you get nothing else out of this book but the ability to synchronize other people's body language, you'll be miles ahead of where you were last month.