LAW 6
COURT ATTENTION AT ALL COST
JUDGMENT
Everything is judged by its appearance; what is
unseen counts for nothing. Never let yourself get lost in the
crowd, then, or buried in oblivion. Stand out. Be conspicuous, at
all cost. Make yourself a magnet of attention by appearing larger,
more colorful, more mysterious than the bland and timid
masses.
PART I: SURROUND YOUR NAME WITH THE SENSATIONAL AND SCANDALOUS
Draw attention to yourself by creating an
unforgettable, even controversial image. Court scandal. Do anything
to make yourself seem larger than life and shine more brightly than
those around you. Make no distinction between kinds of
attention—notoriety of any sort will bring you power. Better to be
slandered and attacked than ignored.
OBSERVANCE OF THE LAW
P. T. Barnum, America’s premier nineteenth-century
showman, started his career as an assistant to the owner of a
circus, Aaron Turner. In 1836 the circus stopped in Annapolis,
Maryland, for a series of performances. On the morning of opening
day, Barnum took a stroll through town, wearing a new black suit.
People started to follow him. Someone in the gathering crowd
shouted out that he was the Reverend Ephraim K. Avery, infamous as
a man acquitted of the charge of murder but still believed guilty
by most Americans. The angry mob tore off Barnum’s suit and was
ready to lynch him. After desperate appeals, Barnum finally
convinced them to follow him to the circus, where he could verify
his identity.
THE WASP AND THE PRINCE
A wasp named Pin Tail was long in quest of some
deed that would make him forever famous. So one day he entered the
kirrg’s palace and stung the little prince, who was in bed. The
prince awoke with loud cries. The king and his courtiers rushed in
to see what had happened. The prince was yelling as the wasp stung
him again and again. The courtiers tried to catch the wasp, and
each in turn was stung. The whole royal household rushed in, the
news soon spread, and people flocked to the palace. The city was in
an uproar, all business suspended. Said the wasp to itself, before
it expired from its efforts, “A name without fame is like fire
without flame. There is nothing like attracting notice at any
cost.”
INDIAN FABLE
Once there, old Turner confirmed that this was all
a practical joke—he himself had spread the rumor that Barnum was
Avery. The crowd dispersed, but Barnum, who had nearly been killed,
was not amused. He wanted to know what could have induced his boss
to play such a trick. “My dear Mr. Barnum,” Turner replied, “it was
all for our good. Remember, all we need to ensure success is
notoriety.” And indeed everyone in town was talking about the joke,
and the circus was packed that night and every night it stayed in
Annapolis. Barnum had learned a lesson he would never forget.
Barnum’s first big venture of his own was the
American Museum—a collection of curiosities, located in New York.
One day a beggar approached Barnum in the street. Instead of giving
him money, Barnum decided to employ him. Taking him back to the
museum, he gave the man five bricks and told him to make a slow
circuit of several blocks. At certain points he was to lay down a
brick on the sidewalk, always keeping one brick in hand. On the
return journey he was to replace each brick on the street with the
one he held. Meanwhile he was to remain serious of countenance and
to answer no questions. Once back at the museum, he was to enter,
walk around inside, then leave through the back door and make the
same bricklaying circuit again.
On the man’s first walk through the streets,
several hundred people watched his mysterious movements. By his
fourth circuit, onlookers swarmed around him, debating what he was
doing. Every time he entered the museum he was followed by people
who bought tickets to keep watching him. Many of them were
distracted by the museum’s collections, and stayed inside. By the
end of the first day, the brick man had drawn over a thousand
people into the museum. A few days later the police ordered him to
cease and desist from his walks—the crowds were blocking traffic.
The bricklaying stopped but thousands of New Yorkers had entered
the museum, and many of those had become P. T. Barnum
converts.
Even when I’m railed at, I get my quota of
renown.
PIETRO ARETINO, 1492-1556
Barnum would put a band of musicians on a balcony
overlooking the street, beneath a huge banner proclaiming FREE
MUSIC FOR THE MILLIONS. What generosity, New Yorkers thought, and
they flocked to hear the free concerts. But Barnum took pains to
hire the worst musicians he could find, and soon after the band
struck up, people would hurry to buy tickets to the museum, where
they would be out of earshot of the band’s noise, and of the booing
of the crowd.
THE COURT ARTIST
A work that was voluntarily presented to a
prince was bound to seem in some way special. The artist
himself might also try to attract the attention of the court
through his behaviour. In Vasari’s judgment Sodoma was “well known
both for his personal eccentricities and for his reputation as a
good painter.” Because Pope Leo X “found pleasure in such strange,
hare-brained individuals,” he made Sodoma a knight, causing the
artist to go completely out of his mind. Van Mander found it odd
that the products of Cornelis Ketel’s experiments in mouth and foot
painting were bought by notable persons “because of their oddity,”
yet Ketel was only adding a variation to similar experiments by
Titian, Ugo da Carpi and Palma Giovane, who, according to Boschini
painted with their fingers “because they wished to imitate the
method used by the Supreme Creator. ” Van Mander reports
that Gossaert attracted the attention of Emperor Charles V by
wearing a fantastic paper costume. In doing so he was adopting the
tactics used by Dinocrates, who, in order to gain access to
Alexander the Great, is said to have appeared disguised as the
naked Hercules when the monarch was sitting in judgment.
THE COURT ARTIST, MARTIN WARNKE, 1993
One of the first oddities Barnum toured around the
country was Joice Heth, a woman he claimed was 161 years old, and
whom he advertised as a slave who had once been George Washington’s
nurse. After several months the crowds began to dwindle, so Barnum
sent an anonymous letter to the papers, claiming that Heth was a
clever fraud. “Joice Heth,” he wrote, “is not a human being but an
automaton, made up of whalebone, india-rubber, and numberless
springs.” Those who had not bothered to see her before were
immediately curious, and those who had already seen her paid to see
her again, to find out whether the rumor that she was a robot was
true.
In 1842, Barnum purchased the carcass of what was
purported to be a mermaid. This creature resembled a monkey with
the body of a fish, but the head and body were perfectly joined—it
was truly a wonder. After some research Barnum discovered that the
creature had been expertly put together in Japan, where the hoax
had caused quite a stir.
He nevertheless planted articles in newspapers
around the country claiming the capture of a mermaid in the Fiji
Islands. He also sent the papers woodcut prints of paintings
showing mermaids. By the time he showed the specimen in his museum,
a national debate had been sparked over the existence of these
mythical creatures. A few months before Barnum’s campaign, no one
had cared or even known about mermaids; now everyone was talking
about them as if they were real. Crowds flocked in record numbers
to see the Fiji Mermaid, and to hear debates on the subject.
A few years later, Barnum toured Europe with
General Tom Thumb, a five-year-old dwarf from Connecticut whom
Barnum claimed was an eleven-year-old English boy, and whom he had
trained to do many remarkable acts. During this tour Barnum’s name
attracted such attention that Queen Victoria, that paragon of
sobriety, requested a private audience with him and his talented
dwarf at Buckingham Palace. The English press may have ridiculed
Barnum, but Victoria was royally entertained by him, and respected
him ever after.
Interpretation
Barnum understood the fundamental truth about
attracting attention: Once people’s eyes are on you, you have a
special legitimacy. For Barnum, creating interest meant creating a
crowd; as he later wrote, “Every crowd has a silver lining.” And
crowds tend to act in conjunction. If one person stops to see your
beggarman laying bricks in the street, more will do the same. They
will gather like dust bunnies. Then, given a gentle push, they will
enter your museum or watch your show. To create a crowd you have to
do something different and odd. Any kind of curiosity will serve
the purpose, for crowds are magnetically attracted by the unusual
and inexplicable. And once you have their attention, never let it
go. If it veers toward other people, it does so at your expense.
Barnum would ruthlessly suck attention from his competitors,
knowing what a valuable commodity it is.
At the beginning of your rise to the top, then,
spend all your energy on attracting attention. Most important: The
quality of the attention is irrelevant. No matter how badly
his shows were reviewed, or how slanderously personal were the
attacks on his hoaxes, Barnum would never complain. If a newspaper
critic reviled him particularly badly, in fact, he made sure to
invite the man to an opening and to give him the best seat in the
house. He would even write anonymous attacks on his own work, just
to keep his name in the papers. From Barnum’s vantage,
attention—whether negative or positive—was the main ingredient of
his success. The worst fate in the world for a man who yearns fame,
glory, and, of course, power is to be ignored.
If the courtier happens to engage in arms in
some public spectacle
such as jousting ... he will ensure that the horse he has is beautifully
caparisoned, that he himself is suitably attired, with appropriate
mottoes and ingenious devices to attract the eyes of the onlookers
in his direction as surely as the lodestone attracts iron.
such as jousting ... he will ensure that the horse he has is beautifully
caparisoned, that he himself is suitably attired, with appropriate
mottoes and ingenious devices to attract the eyes of the onlookers
in his direction as surely as the lodestone attracts iron.
Baldassare Castighone, 1478-1529
KEYS TO POWER
Burning more brightly than those around you is a
skill that no one is born with. You have to learn to attract
attention, “as surely as the lodestone attracts iron.” At the start
of your career, you must attach your name and reputation to a
quality, an image, that sets you apart from other people. This
image can be something like a characteristic style of dress, or a
personality quirk that amuses people and gets talked about. Once
the image is established, you have an appearance, a place in the
sky for your star.
It is a common mistake to imagine that this
peculiar appearance of yours should not be controversial, that to
be attacked is somehow bad. Nothing could be further from the
truth. To avoid being a flash in the pan, and having your notoriety
eclipsed by another, you must not discriminate between different
types of attention; in the end, every kind will work in your favor.
Barnum, we have seen, welcomed personal attacks and felt no need to
defend himself. He deliberately courted the image of being a
humbug.
The court of Louis XIV contained many talented
writers, artists, great beauties, and men and women of impeccable
virtue, but no one was more talked about than the singular Duc de
Lauzun. The duke was short, almost dwarfish, and he was prone to
the most insolent kinds of behavior—he slept with the king’s
mistress, and openly insulted not only other courtiers but the king
himself. Louis, however, was so beguiled by the duke’s
eccentricities that he could not bear his absences from the court.
It was simple: The strangeness of the duke’s character attracted
attention. Once people were enthralled by him, they wanted him
around at any cost.
Society craves larger-than-life figures, people who
stand above the general mediocrity. Never be afraid, then, of the
qualities that set you apart and draw attention to you. Court
controversy, even scandal. It is better to be attacked, even
slandered, than ignored. All professions are ruled by this law, and
all professionals must have a bit of the showman about them.
The great scientist Thomas Edison knew that to
raise money he had to remain in the public eye at any cost. Almost
as important as the inventions themselves was how he presented them
to the public and courted attention.
Edison would design visually dazzling experiments
to display his discoveries with electricity. He would talk of
future inventions that seemed fantastic at the time—robots, and
machines that could photograph thought—and that he had no intention
of wasting his energy on, but that made the public talk about him.
He did everything he could to make sure that he received more
attention than his great rival Nikola Tesla, who may actually have
been more brilliant than he was but whose name was far less known.
In 1915, it was rumored that Edison and Tesla would be joint
recipients of that year’s Nobel Prize in physics. The prize was
eventually given to a pair of English physicists; only later was it
discovered that the prize committee had actually approached Edison,
but he had turned them down, refusing to share the prize with
Tesla. By that time his fame was more secure than Tesla’s, and he
thought it better to refuse the honor than to allow his rival the
attention that would have come even from sharing the prize.
If you find yourself in a lowly position that
offers little opportunity for you to draw attention, an effective
trick is to attack the most visible, most famous, most powerful
person you can find. When Pietro Aretino, a young Roman servant boy
of the early sixteenth century, wanted to get attention as a writer
of verses, he decided to publish a series of satirical poems
ridiculing the pope and his affection for a pet elephant. The
attack put Aretino in the public eye immediately. A slanderous
attack on a person in a position of power would have a similar
effect. Remember, however, to use such tactics sparingly after you
have the public’s attention, when the act can wear thin.
Once in the limelight you must constantly renew it
by adapting and varying your method of courting attention. If you
don’t, the public will grow tired, will take you for granted, and
will move on to a newer star. The game requires constant vigilance
and creativity. Pablo Picasso never allowed himself to fade into
the background; if his name became too attached to a particular
style, he would deliberately upset the public with a new series of
paintings that went against all expectations. Better to create
something ugly and disturbing, he believed, than to let viewers
grow too familiar with his work. Understand: People feel superior
to the person whose actions they can predict. If you show them who
is in control by playing against their expectations, you
both gain their respect and tighten your hold on their fleeting
attention.
Image:
The Limelight. The
actor who steps into this bril
liant light attains a heightened
presence. All eyes are on him. There
is room for only one actor at a time in
the limelight’s narrow beam; do what
ever it takes to make yourself its focus.
Make your gestures so large, amus
ing, and scandalous that the
light stays on you while the
other actors are left in
the shadows.
The Limelight. The
actor who steps into this bril
liant light attains a heightened
presence. All eyes are on him. There
is room for only one actor at a time in
the limelight’s narrow beam; do what
ever it takes to make yourself its focus.
Make your gestures so large, amus
ing, and scandalous that the
light stays on you while the
other actors are left in
the shadows.
Authority: Be ostentatious and be seen.... What is
not seen is as though it did not exist.... It was light that first
caused all creation to shine forth. Display fills up many blanks,
covers up deficiencies, and gives everything a second life,
especially when it is backed by genuine merit. (Baltasar Gracián,
1601-1658)
PART II: CREATE AN AIR OF MYSTERY
In a world growing increasingly banal and
familiar, what seems enigmatic instantly draws
attention. Never make it too clear what you are
doing or about to do. Do not show all your cards. An air of
mystery heightens your presence; it also creates
anticipation—everyone will be watching you to see what happens
next. Use mystery to beguile, seduce, even frighten.
OBSERVANCE OF THE LAW
Beginning in 1905, rumors started to spread
throughout Paris of a young Oriental girl who danced in a private
home, wrapped in veils that she gradually discarded. A local
journalist who had seen her dancing reported that “a woman from the
Far East had come to Europe laden with perfume and jewels, to
introduce some of the richness of the Oriental colour and life into
the satiated society of European cities.” Soon everyone knew the
dancer’s name: Mata Hari.
Early that year, in the winter, small and select
audiences would gather in a salon filled with Indian statues and
other relics while an orchestra played music inspired by Hindu and
Javanese melodies. After keeping the audience waiting and
wondering, Mata Hari would suddenly appear, in a startling costume:
a white cotton brassiere covered with Indian-type jewels; jeweled
bands at the waist supporting a sarong that revealed as much as it
concealed; bracelets up the arms. Then Mata Hari would dance, in a
style no one in France had seen before, her whole body swaying as
if she were in a trance. She told her excited and curious audience
that her dances told stories from Indian mythology and Javanese
folktales. Soon the cream of Paris, and ambassadors from far-off
lands, were competing for invitations to the salon, where it was
rumored that Mata Hari was actually performing sacred dances in the
nude.
The public wanted to know more about her. She told
journalists that she was actually Dutch in origin, but had grown up
on the island of Java. She would also talk about time spent in
India, how she had learned sacred Hindu dances there, and how
Indian women “can shoot straight, ride horseback, and are capable
of doing logarithms and talk philosophy.” By the summer of 1905,
although few Parisians had actually seen Mata Hari dance, her name
was on everyone’s lips.
As Mata Hari gave more interviews, the story of her
origins kept changing: She had grown up in India, her grandmother
was the daughter of a Javanese princess, she had lived on the
island of Sumatra where she had spent her time “horseback riding,
gun in hand, and risking her life.” No one knew anything certain
about her, but journalists did not mind these changes in her
biography. They compared her to an Indian goddess, a creature from
the pages of Baudelaire—whatever their imagination wanted to see in
this mysterious woman from the East.
In August of 1905, Mata Hari performed for the
first time in public. Crowds thronging to see her on opening night
caused a riot. She had now become a cult figure, spawning many
imitations. One reviewer wrote, “Mata Hari personifies all the
poetry of India, its mysticism, its voluptuousness, its hypnotizing
charm.” Another noted, “If India possesses such unexpected
treasures, then all Frenchmen will emigrate to the shores of the
Ganges.”
Soon the fame of Mata Hari and her sacred Indian
dances spread beyond Paris. She was invited to Berlin, Vienna,
Milan. Over the next few years she performed throughout Europe,
mixed with the highest social circles, and earned an income that
gave her an independence rarely enjoyed by a woman of the period.
Then, near the end of World War I, she was arrested in France,
tried, convicted, and finally executed as a German spy. Only during
the trial did the truth come out: Mata Hari was not from Java or
India, had not grown up in the Orient, did not have a drop of
Eastern blood in her body. Her real name was Margaretha Zelle, and
she came from the stolid northern province of Friesland,
Holland.
Interpretation
When Margaretha Zelle arrived in Paris, in 1904,
she had half a franc in her pocket. She was one of the thousands of
beautiful young girls who flocked to Paris every year, taking work
as artists’ models, nightclub dancers, or vaudeville performers at
the Folies Bergère. After a few years they would inevitably be
replaced by younger girls, and would often end up on the streets,
turning to prostitution, or else returning to the town they came
from, older and chastened.
Zelle had higher ambitions. She had no dance
experience and had never performed in the theater, but as a young
girl she had traveled with her family and had witnessed local
dances in Java and Sumatra. Zelle clearly understood that what was
important in her act was not the dance itself, or even her face or
figure, but her ability to create an air of mystery about herself.
The mystery she created lay not just in her dancing, or her
costumes, or the stories she would tell, or her endless lies about
her origins; it lay in an atmosphere enveloping everything she did.
There was nothing you could say for sure about her—she was always
changing, always surprising her audience with new costumes, new
dances, new stories. This air of mystery left the public always
wanting to know more, always wondering about her next move. Mata
Hari was no more beautiful than many of the other young girls who
came to Paris, and she was not a particularly good dancer. What
separated her from the mass, what attracted and held the public’s
attention and made her famous and wealthy, was her mystery. People
are enthralled by mystery; because it invites constant
interpretation, they never tire of it. The mysterious cannot be
grasped. And what cannot be seized and consumed creates
power.
KEYS TO POWER
In the past, the world was filled with the
terrifying and unknowable—diseases, disasters, capricious despots,
the mystery of death itself. What we could not understand we
reimagined as myths and spirits. Over the centuries, though, we
have managed, through science and reason, to illuminate the
darkness; what was mysterious and forbidding has grown familiar and
comfortable. Yet this light has a price: in a world that is ever
more banal, that has had its mystery and myth squeezed out of it,
we secretly crave enigmas, people or things that cannot be
instantly interpreted, seized, and consumed.
That is the power of the mysterious: It invites
layers of interpretation, excites our imagination, seduces us into
believing that it conceals something marvelous. The world has
become so familiar and its inhabitants so predictable that what
wraps itself in mystery will almost always draw the limelight to it
and make us watch it.
Do not imagine that to create an air of mystery you
have to be grand and awe-inspiring. Mystery that is woven into your
day-to-day demeanor, and is subtle, has that much more power to
fascinate and attract attention. Remember: Most people are upfront,
can be read like an open book, take little care to control their
words or image, and are hopelessly predictable. By simply holding
back, keeping silent, occasionally uttering ambiguous phrases,
deliberately appearing inconsistent, and acting odd in the subtlest
of ways, you will emanate an aura of mystery. The people around you
will then magnify that aura by constantly trying to interpret
you.
Both artists and con artists understand the vital
link between being mysterious and attracting interest. Count Victor
Lustig, the aristocrat of swindlers, played the game to perfection.
He was always doing things that were different, or seemed to make
no sense. He would show up at the best hotels in a limo driven by a
Japanese chauffeur; no one had ever seen a Japanese chauffeur
before, so this seemed exotic and strange. Lustig would dress in
the most expensive clothing, but always with something—a medal, a
flower, an armband—out of place, at least in conventional terms.
This was seen not as tasteless but as odd and intriguing. In hotels
he would be seen receiving telegrams at all hours, one after the
other, brought to him by his Japanese chauffeur—telegrams he would
tear up with utter nonchalance. (In fact they were fakes,
completely blank.) He would sit alone in the dining room, reading a
large and impressive-looking book, smiling at people yet remaining
aloof. Within a few days, of course, the entire hotel would be
abuzz with interest in this strange man.
All this attention allowed Lustig to lure suckers
in with ease. They would beg for his confidence and his company.
Everyone wanted to be seen with this mysterious aristocrat. And in
the presence of this distracting enigma, they wouldn’t even notice
that they were being robbed blind.
An air of mystery can make the mediocre appear
intelligent and profound. It made Mata Hari, a woman of average
appearance and intelligence, seem like a goddess, and her dancing
divinely inspired. An air of mystery about an artist makes his or
her artwork immediately more intriguing, a trick Marcel Duchamp
played to great effect. It is all very easy to do—say little about
your work, tease and titillate with alluring, even contradictory
comments, then stand back and let others try to make sense of it
all.
Mysterious people put others in a kind of inferior
position—that of trying to figure them out. To degrees that they
can control, they also elicit the fear surrounding anything
uncertain or unknown. All great leaders know that an aura of
mystery draws attention to them and creates an intimidating
presence. Mao Tse-tung, for example, cleverly cultivated an
enigmatic image; he had no worries about seeming inconsistent or
contradicting himself—the very contradictoriness of his actions and
words meant that he always had the upper hand. No one, not even his
own wife, ever felt they understood him, and he therefore seemed
larger than life. This also meant that the public paid constant
attention to him, ever anxious to witness his next move.
If your social position prevents you from
completely wrapping your actions in mystery, you must at least
learn to make yourself less obvious. Every now and then, act in a
way that does not mesh with other people’s perception of you. This
way you keep those around you on the defensive, eliciting the kind
of attention that makes you powerful. Done right, the creation of
enigma can also draw the kind of attention that strikes terror into
your enemy.
During the Second Punic War (219-202 B.C.), the
great Carthaginian general Hannibal was wreaking havoc in his march
on Rome. Hannibal was known for his cleverness and duplicity.
Under his leadership Carthage’s army, though
smaller than those of the Romans, had constantly outmaneuvered
them. On one occasion, though, Hannibal’s scouts made a horrible
blunder, leading his troops into a marshy terrain with the sea at
their back. The Roman army blocked the mountain passes that led
inland, and its general, Fabius, was ecstatic—at last he had
Hannibal trapped. Posting his best sentries on the passes, he
worked on a plan to destroy Hannibal’s forces. But in the middle of
the night, the sentries looked down to see a mysterious sight: A
huge procession of lights was heading up the mountain. Thousands
and thousands of lights. If this was Hannibal’s army, it had
suddenly grown a hundredfold.
The sentries argued heatedly about what this could
mean: Reinforcements from the sea? Troops that had been hidden in
the area? Ghosts? No explanation made sense.
As they watched, fires broke out all over the
mountain, and a horrible noise drifted up to them from below, like
the blowing of a million horns. Demons, they thought. The sentries,
the bravest and most sensible in the Roman army, fled their posts
in a panic.
By the next day, Hannibal had escaped from the
marshland. What was his trick? Had he really conjured up demons?
Actually what he had done was order bundles of twigs to be fastened
to the horns of the thousands of oxen that traveled with his troops
as beasts of burden. The twigs were then lit, giving the impression
of the torches of a vast army heading up the mountain. When the
flames burned down to the oxen’s skin, they stampeded in all
directions, bellowing like mad and setting fires all over the
mountainside. The key to this device’s success was not the torches,
the fires, or the noises in themselves, however, but the fact that
Hannibal had created a puzzle that captivated the sentries’
attention and gradually terrified them. From the mountaintop there
was no way to explain this bizarre sight. If the sentries could
have explained it they would have stayed at their posts.
If you find yourself trapped, cornered, and on the
defensive in some situation, try a simple experiment: Do something
that cannot be easily explained or interpreted. Choose a simple
action, but carry it out in a way that unsettles your opponent, a
way with many possible interpretations, making your intentions
obscure. Don’t just be unpredictable (although this tactic too can
be successful—see Law 17); like Hannibal, create a scene that
cannot be read. There will seem to be no method to your madness, no
rhyme or reason, no single explanation. If you do this right, you
will inspire fear and trembling and the sentries will abandon their
posts. Call it the “feigned madness of Hamlet” tactic, for Hamlet
uses it to great effect in Shakespeare’s play, frightening his
stepfather Claudius through the mystery of his behavior. The
mysterious makes your forces seem larger, your power more
terrifying.
Image: The Dance of
the Veils—the veils
envelop the dancer.
What they reveal
causes excitement.
What they conceal
heightens interest. The
essence of mystery.
the Veils—the veils
envelop the dancer.
What they reveal
causes excitement.
What they conceal
heightens interest. The
essence of mystery.
Authority: If you do not declare yourself
immediately, you arouse expectation.... Mix a little mystery with
everything, and the very mystery stirs up veneration. And when you
explain, be not too explicit.... In this manner you imitate the
Divine way when you cause men to wonder and watch. (Baltasar
Gracián, 1601-1658)
REVERSAL
In the beginning of your rise to the top, you must
attract attention at all cost, but as you rise higher you must
constantly adapt. Never wear the public out with the same tactic.
An air of mystery works wonders for those who need to develop an
aura of power and get themselves noticed, but it must seem measured
and under control. Mata Hari went too far with her fabrications;
although the accusation that she was a spy was false, at the time
it was a reasonable presumption because all her lies made her seem
suspicious and nefarious. Do not let your air of mystery be slowly
transformed into a reputation for deceit. The mystery you create
must seem a game, playful and unthreatening. Recognize when it goes
too far, and pull back.
There are times when the need for attention must be
deferred, and when scandal and notoriety are the last things you
want to create. The attention you attract must never offend or
challenge the reputation of those above you—not, at any rate, if
they are secure. You will seem not only paltry but desperate by
comparison. There is an art to knowing when to draw notice and when
to withdraw.
Lola Montez was one of the great practitioners of
the art of attracting attention. She managed to rise from a
middle-class Irish background to being the lover of Franz Liszt and
then the mistress and political adviser of King Ludwig of Bavaria.
In her later years, though, she lost her sense of proportion.
In London in 1850 there was to be a performance of
Shakespeare’s Macbeth featuring the greatest actor of the
time, Charles John Kean. Everyone of consequence in English society
was to be there; it was rumored that even Queen Victoria and Prince
Albert were to make a public appearance. The custom of the period
demanded that everyone be seated before the queen arrived. So the
audience got there a little early, and when the queen entered her
royal box, they observed the convention of standing up and
applauding her. The royal couple waited, then bowed. Everyone sat
down and the lights were dimmed. Then, suddenly, all eyes turned to
a box opposite Queen Victoria’s: A woman appeared from the shadows,
taking her seat later than the queen. It was Lola Montez. She wore
a diamond tiara on her dark hair and a long fur coat over her
shoulders. People whispered in amazement as the ermine cloak was
dropped to reveal a low-necked gown of crimson velvet. By turning
their heads, the audience could see that the royal couple
deliberately avoided looking at Lola’s box. They followed
Victoria’s example, and for the rest of the evening Lola Montez was
ignored. After that evening no one in fashionable society dared to
be seen with her. All her magnetic powers were reversed. People
would flee her sight. Her future in England was finished.
Never appear overly greedy for attention, then, for
it signals insecurity, and insecurity drives power away. Understand
that there are times when it is not in your interest to be the
center of attention. When in the presence of a king or queen, for
instance, or the equivalent thereof, bow and retreat to the
shadows; never compete.