FOR COUNSELORS AND THERAPISTS AND SELF-HELP FOR POTENTIAL LOOSE GIRLS

Loose-Girl Behavior Assessment

1. Do you often use sex to get something—such as long-term love or a sense of worth—from your sex partner?
2. Do you use other aspects of male attention to gain a sense of worth or desirability?
3. Have you often avoided all else in your evening out, your work, your life, in pursuit of that attention?
4. Do you feel that you are needy?
5. Do you feel that your neediness makes you unlovable?
6. Do you hold fantasies that romantic interests will “save” you from deep-seated pain?
7. Have you more than a few times had sex with someone you didn’t want to have sex with simply because he wanted to?
8. Do you need every romantic encounter you have—sexual or not—to turn into long-term love, as opposed to consciously thinking about and making choices about whether the person is someone with whom you’d actually want such a long-term relationship?
9. Do you often feel dissatisfied in your romantic relationships?
10. Have you given up adventures and self-betterment through travel, schooling, and so on, because you didn’t want to be away from a romantic interest or the possibility of male attention?

If you answered yes to at least half (five) of these questions, you likely have loose-girl behavior.