CHAPTER ELEVEN
“A Time to Heal.”
Guilt persisted. It struck with vicious precision, scattering what peace I’d managed to scrounge amid desolation. My head reminded me of Dr. Jordess’ counsel, that I’d had Krissie’s best interests in mind when I sent her to her death. Logically, I knew that was true.
My heart said something else entirely.
“Neecy,” Kirk held out the phone to me several weeks after the accident, “this is Mr. Greene, the conductor on the train. He wants to talk to – ”
“No – ” I backed away, shaking my head. I wanted no details.
“Please, Neecy,” Kirk’s eyes pleaded with me, “he wants to say – ”
“I’m sorry – I can’t.” I spun around and fled the room.
The unknown terrified me. I had nightmares that Krissie had been mutilated from the waist down. So I avoided any mention of specifics except with Kirk.
“She only had one injury,” he kept insisting, “here.” He’d point to that spot behind his left ear.
But what if no one had told him? Cynicism persisted. That my fears had no true basis didn’t stop them. In the earliest nightmares, I was Krissie, frozen before the roaring train whose whistle shrilled as its mammoth spotlight swirled, swirled toward me.... I would awake suddenly, jackknifed in bed, heart pounding and breath shallow, feeling her terror and pain in death’s jaws.
In those dark pre-dawn hours, the maternal-me screamed out against the monstrous visions. Those trusting blue eyes.... My arms ached to hold my little girl, to soothe and comfort her.
But I’d failed her.
I prayed.
God heard.
093
Seemed every time reality became too much, something would happen to balance out flesh and spirit. On an upstate visit to Dad and Anne’s, we stayed up late, talking and simply loving one another. The next morning, Kirk arose early and went with Dad on one of their male-bonding drives. Still tired, I decided to lie back down while Anne went to the grocery store. I soon drifted off to sleep.
I began to dream. Yet – I knew right away this was no ordinary dream. I saw Krissie moving toward me...not actually walking, more like gliding. She was smiling. The vision was so crystal clear, the blue in her eyes glimmered and her teeth sparkled like sunshine spattered snow.
“Please, God,” I breathed a prayer, “let me hold her, feel her.”
Then she was in my arms and I embraced her in a warm snug hug, closing my eyes and thanking God for the privilege.
Presently, she moved back, just enough that I looked directly into her eyes and pure gratification shot straight to my heart, then filled me to overflowing. Suddenly, her features were aglow and this luminous glow extended beyond her face, forming a halo effect, encircling her entire upper body.
Ahh, the sweet smile.
Krissie began to talk, chatter-box fast, as though trying to cram as much into our time as possible...”I didn’t have trouble – you know, with breathing. It wasn’t like that at all, Mama!”
Thank God. “But Krissie,” I moaned, “if I’d only kept you home that day – ”
Mama, you can’t go on feeling this way. It was my time, don’t you see?”
“No,” I groaned, “you’d still be alive if – ”
Please, Mama, don’t.” The smile softened and the eyes turned so compassionate it made my breath hitch. “I love you so and I don’t want you to feel bad. I made the choices that day, not you. Promise me you’ll stop blaming yourself.” How mature she talked.
I began to weep. “Promise?” Her head tilted slightly and the smile charmed.
“Yes, honey. I promise.”
Good. Now we’ll both have peace.” The emphatic words and unwavering smile began to reassure me. She continued to talk of comforting, happy things while the brilliance of her features grew ever brighter until she disappeared behind it.
I struggled to see her, the desire so great I nearly wept aloud and once more, she emerged through the glow. I drank in the sight of the joyful face, radiant with love.
The soft glow grew and shimmered again, until the sight of her quickly diminished from view. Power, like a pleasant electrical jolt, surged through my body.
Jubilation opened my mouth to thank God for the vision. The words that poured from me were in that now familiar, yet unknown rhetoric, a flowing, beautiful language. And as I hovered there in the trance zone, between sleep and wakefulness, a deep male voice, like many waters, thundered, “Let this be a sign unto you. This is from God.”
In the next breath, I was fully awake, sitting upright, flooded with a curious warmth and supreme comfort.
Beyond any doubt the future would offer, beyond all cynicism hovering behind darkness, I knew I had two visitors: My child, who, in her own words, revealed she had not suffered in her final moments and absolved me of guilt, and the comforter: the Holy Spirit.
094
“Callie, stay and eat supper with us,” I coaxed as she gathered her purse from under her desk and when she hesitated, I threw in, “I’m frying chicken.”
‘Aw, oka-ay,” she laughed and slung her purse strap over her padded shoulder. “You know I can’t resist your chicken, Neece.”
“Yup.” And I couldn’t resist having her around to talk to. I’d gone from not wanting to talk to a desperation to vent. And few could hang in there with me. Only Anne and Callie. Not even Kirk. He could for short treks but not for the long haul. It was Anne who took me to talk with the rescuers who’d found Krissie’s lifeless form on the riverbank, whom I’d asked, “was there any pulse? Did anyone try to resuscitate her?” Anne who held me and wept with me when the answer was ‘no, we didn’t feel it was safe to move her.’ It was Callie who called Mr. Jones, the funeral home director and handed me the phone to ask, “Did Krissie sustain any injuries other than the head wound?” And when he answered, “no, Mrs. Crenshaw, Krissie never knew what hit her. Her death was instantaneous,” Callie held me and silently celebrated with me that it had been so.
Kirk fought his own battles. His strategy was to snub and ignore the fact of. Mine was to probe, dissect and analyze until it neutralized to bearable. Neither tactic superceded the other. Ours became an unspoken respect for the other’s method.
Today, I needed Cal. And so she dined with us and afterward, when Kirk and Heather departed to the convalescent home with the Tree of Life Youth Group for their monthly service, she stayed to visit for a while longer.
“How’s my boy?” Callie asked a listless Toby, plopping beside him on the sofa and giving him a warm hug. “Mom said you came home early from school today. What’s wrong?”
“My tummy hurt,” Toby murmured, watching the television with dull eyes.
“His teacher said he complained of not feeling well and appeared tired and inattentive,” I explained. “She called us to come pick him up.”
“Heather okay?” Callie kicked off her heels and curled long bronze legs under her.
“She cries a lot. Oh, not in front of us, but I see her red eyes. And during the night, she crawls in bed beside me and sleeps there until morning. Other times, she’ll disappear for hours and I find her in Krissie’s room, dressing Krissie’s Barbie dolls or looking at her pictures.”
Then there were the times I’d find her sitting quietly near her sister’s grave, under the shade of the graceful oak. I understood her need for solitude and granted it.
“Mama,” Toby arose and motioned me to follow him to his room, where he stretched out on his bed, then curled over on his side into fetal position.
“I dream about Krissie, Mama,” he said softly, staring morosely at nothing. “She always came over to speak to me at recess. I miss her.” A tear slid down across his freckled nose.
This had been Krissie’s last year of elementary school. She’d bubbled with anticipation when speaking of junior high next fall.
“Mama – I feel kinda...you know – funny.”
“About what?” I suspected his feelings related to last night’s dream of Krissie.
“Well...I wish I could go to Heaven and be with her.”
Bingo.
“But – God isn’t ready for you to go now, Toby,” I explained gently. “Only those picked carefully by God, like Krissie and Zach, are privileged to go to Heaven so early in life. We don’t always understand why He calls some so soon but – your time will come later. God still has things for you to do here.”
He solemnly nodded his head. How he missed his little mother-hen sister. But he still believed God knew best. My faith had been tossed about like a rag doll in a pit bull’s jaws, at times barely coming out intact. Yet – Toby’s held firm. I tenderly laced my fingers with his.
A little child shall lead them.
I sat there beside him, holding his limp hand, until his lids drooped in slumber.
095
“Let’s have another baby, Janeece.” Kirk moved to stand behind me at the sink and slid his strong arms around me as I drained the water out and wiped the surface dry.
This wasn’t a new topic. Had been batted around for days, in fact. Initially, I’d not thought Kirk would persevere, that his urge to procreate, as other phases of grief, would pass. But when Heather and Toby joined him in his persuasion efforts, I began to slowly relent. First, I had to neutralize the obstacle between conception and me: apprehension.
Complications during and following Toby’s birth still haunted me. A possible recurrence of allergic drug reactions, muscle problems and resultant post-partum depression spooked me. But I’d been thinking more and more about Lamaze, the new natural childbirth procedure I’d used eruditely during my three previous labors. The process would eliminate scary threats.
I turned into Kirk’s arms and gazed up at him, allowing the image of procreation to stir anticipation within me. “If you’ll locate a Lamaze clinic within traveling distance, I’ll do it.”
Kirk’s gratitude glimmered from green depths for a long moment before he reverently took my face in his hands and kissed me “Thank you, honey.”
Two days later, Sunday, Tillie Dawson ambushed to me as I entered the church sanctuary. “I’ve found a Lamaze clinic, Neecy,” she bubbled, gripping my hands so tightly my fingers tingled. “Doctor Jennings does Lamaze at Summerville Medical Center.” I didn’t mind that Kirk had incorporated others to search out a solution. Was, in fact, glad. Because now, I felt a surge of something closer to joy than I’d felt in weeks.
Another sentiment regenerated: anticipation. Sometime in the wee hours, I’d lain awake thinking about Krissie’s maternal leanings, so obvious in her love of babies and her ability to calm unruly children with softly spoken words and a smile. Few little ones could resist her charm.
“You’re a natural born mother, Krissie.” How many times I’d told her that and seen her beaming response. How I’d looked forward to sharing her joy of motherhood. So much left undone....
“Mama, I don’t know if I want to be a missionary anymore. I want lots and lots of kids and kids might not like growing up in Africa.”
In those twilight hours, a higher wisdom came to me: a new life would fill our family’s need to love and be loved. And while Krissie could not be replaced, the small life brought forth could, in a sense, replace the child she was not privileged to bear.
This would not only be our child: It would also be Krissie’s baby.
096
Insemination posed no problem. Within six weeks, I bore symptoms of pregnancy. On one level, I exulted in bearing this new life, my focus trance-like in purpose, moving through the initial nausea that racked me round the clock, never complaining, glorying in it because the chemical change would, eventually, deliver a babe into my arms to hold and croon to. The craving to love and be loved leaped into being and was as instinctive as my next breath. It burned in my bosom.
On another level entirely, I remained as gaunt and numb as the day Krissie left us. The zombie-me neutralized all anxieties in tandem with childbearing. A strange coupling it was, the Zombie and the Zealot, one at which, in retrospect, I’ve marveled. This mystical coalition, in the end, carted me to fruition.
While the Zombie remained the in control part of my psyche, the Zealot posed a whole new set of quandaries. During fecundation, my hormones soared and raged and demanded touch and feel. My skin screamed for Kirk’s slightest brush of flesh, a desire that, previously, would have delighted him. Only now, breeding complete, his libido took a nosedive.
“It’s not you, Neecy. I desire you more than ever,” he whispered to me time after time, tears glimmering in the silver glow of night. “Grief has affected me, too. Only thing is – I can’t perform and you can.” He would hold me then, not realizing that just the touch of his skin sent me into spirals of clawing want.
When I’d groan and pull myself from his grasp, his tortured, “I’m so sorry, honey,” cut straight into my heart.
I understood. But perception did not assuage the piercing, gnawing sexual hunger inside me for the next nine months, and there were times, in the wee hours, when war raged over which was the more responsible for my silent tears: sorrow or desire.
097
Our friends Callie and Moose joined the church choir and I was delighted to discover that Cal was a marvelous contralto soprano. Her strong voice supported the soprano section so well the females fairly preened over their new sound. And while Moose’s baritone wasn’t as forceful as Callie’s, it helped drown out Nick Clemmon’s off-key caterwauling.
Nick – my inheritance – was of the family clan who believed fully in blood being thicker’n water. Asking him to leave was tantamount to treason. I wasn’t about to challenge them on it.
So before my choir did special selections, I asked God to sorta adjust the electronic and human sound systems so only harmony was heard. A tall request, even for the Almighty. But I persisted, clutching the hem of his garment, at times certain I was dragged along behind Him wailing and pleading while He moved ahead to see to more critical issues. He took pity on me and, apparently, blocked out some of the dissonance because invitations to perform at numerous civic and church functions continued to pour in.
Then, before Sunday afternoon Homecoming festivities at nearby Pleasant Brook Baptist Church, God answered my SOS in another way. “What is it, Nick?” I asked, concerned about his pale, distressful face.
“I’m sorry – but I can’t help you today. His golden eyes were as mournful as a cocker spaniel’s. “I got laryngitis,” he announced in a squeaky croak. “I can’t sing a lick!
“I’m sorry, too, Nick,” I said, surprised that I meant it. “Tell you what,” I leaned close and whispered, “Come on with us and just move your lips while we sing.”
His face brightened. “Think we’ll fool ‘em?”
“I’m sure we will.”
We did.
098
Sarah Beauregard planted herself before me in the vestibule as parishioners swept past to speak to the robed pastor outside on the white sun-washed portico. I had not been swift or smart enough to dodge the encounter and so, resigned myself with lips stretched into my pastor’s wife smile.
Sarah’s rheumatic, scarlet-tipped talons seized my wrist as she inclined herself forward until her nose almost met mine and my torso instinctively curved away. Beady eyes glittered, belying her softly spoken words, “You know, Miz Crenshaw, this baby you’re carrying won’t take the place of Krissie.”
My smile instantly dissolved and my gaze narrowed. “I never entertained the thought that Krissie could be replaced.”
Her black gaze slanted, as in skeptical and as in disparage. “And it might not be a girl – I know you’re hoping for one. I’d just hate to see you disappointed.”
Anger, pure and blazing white, shot through me. Why, she’d be delighted to see me disappointed, over anything. I wrenched my wrist free, stepped back and spoke so fervently the words came out on a hiss. “Of all people, I know my Krissie could never be replaced.” I took a deep breath, opened my mouth to say “How dare you!” then clamped it shut. No use causing a scene, especially when several folk, seeing my stricken features, had slowed to eavesdrop.
I considered my Christian position and the scriptural woe unto those who caused a little one to stumble. I’d long ago suspected that most converts freeze into that little one phase for an interminable length of time. Few advanced to maturity until donkey-kicked by the devil so many times they figured – duh! – it’s wise to climb on up. I stepped back, composed my features into a sickly mime of patience and managed a passable exit line. “Thank you for your – concern. Please, excuse me,” I said, then abruptly turned and hightailed a distance between myself and the bearer of angst.
I was halfway across the church lawn, aimed for the parsonage, when Kaye Tessner caught my sleeve. “Neecy – wait up,” she huffed breathlessly from her sprint.
I stopped and turned to face her, barely controlling my tears of indignation and hurt.
“I heard everything,” Kaye said and took me in her arms. “That ol’ biddy,” she growled. “I just knew she was up to something, waylaying you like that.”
I clamped my teeth together to stem threatening tears. I would not allow that woman to reduce me to blubbering. “I’m okay,” I gave her a wobbly smile, “But thanks, Kaye.”
“Hey,” she narrowed her silvery-gray eyes, “if she says anything else like that to you, just let me know. I’ll straighten her out.” All the while, her slender nurse’s fingers gently rubbed my arms and her porcelain features, framed by loose mahogany curls, looked absolutely angelic to me in that moment.
“Hey, Neecy!” Callie swaggered comically up to us. “How about our choir special, huh! Did we pin that number or what?” She first gave me a big five, then Kaye.
You nailed it, Callie,” Kaye captured her hand and held onto it knowing by now that Cal slipped away as gustily as she came on. “You should make a tape. You’re good, girl.”
“Aww, go on.” Callie pulled her hand loose, shuffled her feet and looked away.
“I can’t believe you’re blushing.” I laughed and hugged her. “You should, you know.”
“What?” Callie’s gaze kicked back to mine, chocolate eyes wide.
“Cut a tape.”
Stop it, you two!” She turned on her heel and retreated, shaking her loosely waved ebony mane, muttering, “quit that.” I had to grin at Cal, the ol’ hooligan’s newfound modesty.
Chicken!” I yelled after her, drawing some curious looks from stragglers but for once, didn’t care. I was having fun and it felt good.
“What?” she shot me a slit-eyed appraisal over her shoulder.
“Fried,” I called nonchalantly, hugged Kaye ‘bye’ and turned for home.
I heard Cal’s footsteps fall in with mine. “Thanks for the invitation.”
I linked my arm to hers, sliding into our yoke of familiarity. To heck with Sarah’s sorry-placed banality.
“You’re welcome.”
099
I’d known pregnancy’s hormonal terrain would stretch my equanimity, but knowledge did not prepare me for the abruptness with which it came. Within weeks, surging chemical highs and lows jerked me around like MawMaw’s first agitator washing machine, churning my mood from serenity to ballistic in a moment’s span. And yet, the tiny ember nestling inside my womb fed my will to get on with the future. Not every second and not on every level, but the conscious-me finally grabbed a fragile lifeline.
Overall, everybody was pleased that Kirk and I expected another addition to our family. Outside Sarah’s insensitive remark, only my father appeared apprehensive. It surfaced during a visit.
“I can’t believe you actually shut down that shop of yours,” I shrieked and flung myself into his arms when he showed up with Anne on my doorsteps one Friday night. “Law, what’s gon’ happen?”
“They’ll wait on me. Least, most of ‘em will,” he kissed the top of my head as I squeezed his lanky ribcage and blissfully shut my eyes. “Anyway, they know all about what you’ve gone through and I’d been telling them I was planning on sneaking off one weekend.”
“C’mon in, I’m cooking supper – hope you can eat spaghetti, Daddy.” It wasn’t his favorite entree by a long shot. He was a bona-fide meat and potatoes man, my Dad, actually light on the meat and long on veggies. Mainly because it lay easier on his sensitive stomach, a trait passed on to at least half his kids.
“Long as it don’t have too much hot stuff in it, else it’ll bother my stomach.”
“No hot stuff a’tall. Only a speck of Worcestershire sauce.” A couple tablespoons. “I don’t tolerate chili powder too much myself, you know.” Lordy, talk about two peas in a pod. I was a mite uneasy with all the similarities surfacing. “Especially now.”
He drew himself up to his slender six-foot-one and peered down at me. “You all right?”
His concern sorta ruffled my insulation. Ordinarily, it would’ve been comforting, but now, it bordered on prying. And censor.
“Daddy, you don’t seem too happy about the baby,” I mumbled, turning away to stir the sauce, fighting the danged angst that hovered like a vulture over a still warm carcass.
“I’m just worried about you, Neecy, is all. You’re not real strong right now and – ” he shrugged and gave a lop-sided Daddy rendition of a pained grin, “you know me. I worry because you’ve always been a bit frail.” He put his arm around my shoulder as I stood at my stove, adding a bit more salt and garlic powder, wanting to bristle at his claim but knowing any illusion of a pink-cheeked, robust self-image had been blown to smithereens by a host of allergies from hay fever to hives.
Still... “I’m not that fragile, Daddy. I’ve already had three kids, you know.” My words were gentle, yet firm.
“I know. I know. In some ways, Neecy, you’re one of the strongest people I know. The bravest. But – you’ll always be my little girl, honey. And I want you to know that I’m tickled as can be about the new baby.” He gazed solemnly at me. “You know that, don’t you?” he asked gently.
I nodded, emotions swirling like snowflakes in a blizzard... the little girl inside me trying to override the woman planted at the helm.
He patted my shoulder and gave me a Walter Matthau no-nonsense appraisal. “Just take care o’ yourself, y’hear?”
I could handle that. “Yep.” I hugged him hugely until Lynette tackled me around my thickening waist for her portion of hugs. My baby sis’ russet tendrils and periwinkle eyes were so Anne it took my breath. “Law, chile, you’re growing up. What a heartbreaker you’re gon’ be.”
“Can I play with Krissie’s Barbies?” she asked, knowing that should she ask, she could get my last nickel.
“Sure, Sweetheart.” I took off down the hall to pull the toys from Krissie’s top closet shelf. I couldn’t bear to part with them. Just the week before, Kaye Tessner had offered to help me pack up Krissie’s things.
“I can’t, Kaye.” I’d fought the urge to explain myself, but the misery must have shone through.
“Hey, honey, I’m sorry.” Kaye hugged me. “I understand. I just thought you might – well, some folks say it’s easier if you get rid of the reminders. What do they know?”
“There is no easier, Kaye. Trust me.”
Kaye nodded, pushed a limp hair strand from my cheek and smiled. She was so sweet. So understanding. And she’d been there for me every waking hour. That day, she took me to eat at Pete’s Drive-In, where we scarfed down our favorite grilled chicken livers – with sweet coleslaw and golden crisp fries – a friendship ritual that barred any mention of a cholesterol payday up ahead.
“Sure you’re not trying to make me fat?” I teased.
Kay didn’t smile. “You still got a way to go to filling out those hollow cheeks, Neece.”
I sighed and ate another fry. I did look gaunt, even to myself. Despite my expanding waistline.
Tonight, Daddy’s presence secured me as nothing else recent had. Cole lounged with Heather in her room, quietly sharing peer experiences, while Toby and Lynette dubbed voices for dolls vacationing in Barbie’s two-story Dream Country Home. Dale, quieter than usual, hung out with us ‘old’ folks, usually within my elbow distance. I knew he missed Krissie dreadfully and while I was not her, I was his closest connection to her. We all hugged and touched spontaneously, healing one another with affection.
On Saturday, we piled into cars and drove into Charleston to dine at Bessinger’s Buffet. whose specialty is a wonderful barbecue hash. There, we ran into Moose, Roxie and Callie. Singing in the choir together had forged a tentative bond between the two females, while their statuesque-ness fashioned yet another. There, all similarity ended. A good thing, too, because too much would have caused a nuclear clash. As it was, they tolerated each other. So, understandably, I was delighted to see them together and insisted long tables be joined to seat them with our party, which, with the addition, now numbered an even dozen.
When I went for seconds of the sinfully rich sweet potato soufflé – Bessingers’ has the silkiest I’ve ever spooned into my mouth – Callie shadowed me and whispered, “Have you heard Sarah’s latest gossip?”
I turned to gaze at her, my heart doing a spiral dive. “No. What?” Curiosity only slightly overrode dread.
“Says Tillie’s husband Rick is running around.”
“Oh, no. Please don’t say that.” My pulse shot into syncopation. I dolloped a spoonful of yams onto my plate. “But – you can’t believe everything Sarah says.” It came out weak because while I could attest to Sarah’s being a cocklebur in the seat of one’s pants, her truthfulness bordered on brutal.
“She told me it came straight from the horse’s mouth.” Callie slanted me a dubious look. “Whoever the horse is, I can’t say.”
“You didn’t ask?” Now why did I say that? Cal’s black eyes sparkled.
“Nah.” She brushed past me to get some rice and hash gravy. “I didn’t give her the satisfaction.”
Oh Lord. What were we dealing with here? Tillie was such a – precious, kind person. A bit zany, true. But – Stop it, Janice Crenshaw. Do-not-believe-gossip. A husband as good as Rick Dawson would never do such a thing. I loaded up on just a tiny second portion of zesty smoked barbecue pork and resolutely put the thing behind me.
100
Sunday morning at the Crenshaws was an old Marx Brother’s movie, while bathroom use was musical chairs and hot water obsolete by the time my nausea subsided enough for me to stagger into the shower. Cool water tingled over my ever-hot skin, bringing me around and finally, refreshing me. Strangely, all that went on inside and around me during those days sorta bypassed my brain. I couldn’t then and still do not, years later, understand the invisible bubble that enclosed me or the segmentation that rewired me so I became someone entirely different.
One part of conscious-me stood aside while the physicalme hung my head over the toilet bowl to vomit up my insides. For once, my delicate, oh-so-sensitive mind overrode my body. At times, I look back and yearn for that plane of existence. But it doesn’t come by a snap of the finger nor upon meditating and the price for it was too, too great.
At that time, however, it saved my sanity and gained me a new start. A new dawn.
That, I decided, was to be my baby’s name.
Dawn.
101
“Heavenly Father...hear us as we pray...here at thine altar, on our wedding day....”
The song, a prayer, floated effortlessly from Callie’s mouth. Her rich contralto soothed and convinced me that Moose’s marbles just might still be intact. Roxie, a virginal dream in white – if one’s gaze didn’t stray below her mini-skirt hem – actually looked at him as she vowed to “love and to cherish you from this day forward.” I wanted so much to believe she spoke the truth.
My solo“If” was done between the prayer and ring vows.
Poor Moose cried through the whole thing, obviously daft over his ‘pretty thang.’ I still couldn’t get a clear read from the new Mrs. McElrath but decided since she was now Moose’s other half, I’d just have to get past any misgivings. She had, after all, attended church regularly for months and should, in her new status, be considered family. Anything less would be an affront to Moose, something Kirk and I would avoid at all costs.
102
The following weeks propelled me swiftly toward the college choral Spring Concert. Ensemble rehearsals, coupled with Solomon Methodist Church’s upcoming Easter Cantata, kept me too busy to dwell for long intervals on our family’s loss. Both musical presentations required one hundred percent, snapping into play the perfectionism seed burrowed deep inside me – one that needed only purpose to explode into a living, panting being – one whose force astounded me at times. It kept me busy. It kept me from thinking too much.
Kirk seemed as driven as I. At night, we both slid from Zealot to Zombie, collapsing into bed to drown in exhaustion. “I never dream,” my husband told me one morning as we lay in each other’s arms after I relayed the Technicolor scenes I’d moved through during sleep.
He sighed sadly. “I wish I could see Krissie in dreams. I envy you....”
“Don’t. The searching part leaves me – gutted.” In that instant, I envied his cocoon that kept unpleasantness at bay.
Seemed denial – or numbing-out – was second nature to Kirk. A perpetually accessible thing that needed no summons. How could two people, who shared a bed and children, be so different?
103
Old-fashioned Sunday brought out hitched-wagons, a rainbow of long gingham costumes, top hats, string-ties and enough kids’ overalls to blast Oshkosh stock to Mars.
“Oh my – ” I snatched little Raquel from her mama and snuggled her beneath the hood of her bonnet, kissing her fat little jowls. “You look just like your Mommy,” I cooed. And she did.
“Hey – don’t let Rick hear that,” Tillie gave her jerky, donkey-bray laugh. “He says he did have a small hand in getting her here.”
“Course he did.” I glanced around and saw Rick’s handsome blonde head towering above kinfolk scattered over the church lawn. He looked grand in his long black coat and Abe Lincoln hat. Thank God, I silently prayed for the umpteenth time, Sarah’s gossip held no water.
Tillie’s Hershey eyes sparkled as she leaned to cup her hand and whisper loudly in my ear, scattering goosebumps over me, “I tell Rick her little butt is exactly like his. You oughta see that big ol’ grin spread over his face!” She reared back to gauge my reaction, gurgling all the time. “Oh!” her fringed eyes rounded, “I’ve got a surprise for you.”
“Hey, Mama! C’mere!” Tillie called to Zelda Diggers, who was the antithesis of her sprightly daughter. Tall and lumbering of gait, Zelda’s dull clay-colored eyes and flat expression gave no hint that she’d parented Tillie Dawson. As she plodded toward us, her long brown skirt and sunbonnet reminded me of a boxy-pup tent. I blinked away the uncomplimentary image, feeling guilty and instantly froze my features into my preacher’s wife smile because, for some reason, I did not feel comfortable around Zelda Diggers. Despite Tillie’s abounding adoration of the woman and her unfailing efforts to get her mom to accommodate the preacher’s family, Zelda remained distant.
Tillie hugged her hugely then gushed. “Did you do one of your carrot cakes that Neecy likes so much, Mama?”
I cringed at the blatant expectancy but quickly covered by giving Raquel a loving shift of hip-position.
“Naw,” Zelda’s bonnet flopped in the breeze, revealing stubbornly straight apricot-tinted bangs above her plain, unfeeling features, “I done a Mississippi mud cake.” I saw Tillie’s face fall. I averted my gaze. Without another word, Zelda pried Raquel from my arms and retreated to her husband, who huddled with relatives across the lawn.
I mentally shook my head, wondering again how this quiet, rather handsome man was ever attracted to such an uncomely, surly woman. Alton Driggers’ genetic legacy to Tillie was all that stood between her and stark homeliness. There, his bequest ended. I’ve yet to determine the source of Tillie’s warmth and charisma and unflappable spirit.
Zelda was – as Tillie and I both knew – well aware of my allergy to her walnut-loaded treat, had been since I’d broken out in hives after ingesting two slices following a homecoming feast.
But, hey! I’d long ago accepted that the world did not revolve around Janeece Whitman Crenshaw. Had not, in fact, ever expected it to. I just hated to see my little peacenik friend’s efforts so callously elbowed aside.
Tillie’s thick lashes blinked a couple of times before she screwed up her mouth and looked at me, clearly apologetic. “I made an egg custard for you, Neecy?” She steepled her clasped hands to her flat bosom in supplication.
I burst out laughing. “Thank you, Tillie.”
“You’re probably the only one brave enough to sample – ”
“Don’t forget Toby,” I reminded her.
Her irrepressible giggles spilled over the day like warm Pepsi fizz. “Toby rarely turns down any desserts, regardless of their source, Neecy!” She playfully poked a finger in my rib.
“That’s beside the point, my star second-soprano.” I looped arms with her and headed for the choir room, mildly surprised – no, pleased that I’d finally begun to develop a thicker hide.
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In late April, Possum Creek Methodist Church called Kirk to assist in Ma McKonna’s funeral. We made the long sad pilgrimage to Oconee County, the four of us, and wept with those to whom we would forever remain bonded by experiences both euphoric and devastating. Years later, I still marvel at love’s adhesive force between flock and clergy family.
The following week, out of the blue, I got a call from Chuck. My brother spoke as though we’d not been estranged over the year – though he had shown up at Krissie’s funeral. I hadn’t heard from him since. Strange, what with all that was happening to me, it didn’t matter. I’d ceased needing Chuck. He knew I was pregnant, via Anne during a recent phone call, when he’d divulged that he and Teresa had separated. More and more, Anne was Mama to us all. I reassured him my pregnancy was progressing normally and then he dropped a bombshell.
“I got diabetes, Sis,” he said as though relating the weather.
“Oh no, Chuck...dear Lord. How bad?”
“I’m on insulin shots. But, hey! That’s okay. I’ve learned how to give ‘em myself. Nothing to it.” Above all things, like his sister, Chuck hated pity.
Strobe images flashed through my head of the disease’s destructive path – Mama’s early death, Uncle Gabe’s health struggles.... But at that precise moment, my brother needed encouragement and support.
“You’re tough, Chuck. You’ll be okay.” Please God.
“Got that right, Sis.”
“Does Dad know?”
“Nah. No use in setting everybody off. Hey – I’ll be off these shots in no time.”
“Sure you will. Thanks for being here when Krissie died. It was comforting.”
“You okay?” Fatherhood had focused Chuck in miraculous ways.
“I have my moments.” I sighed. “Quite a few of them, in fact. But staying busy helps.”
“Yeah. That helps. Listen – ” Another moment of silence. “If you need me, just call. I might not be able to travel because of my job, but I’m as near as your phone. Okay?”
“I might just take you up on that. Love you, Chuck.”
“Yeah. Me, too.”
We hung up and I reflected on Chuck’s recent legal separation from Teresa, whom I’d never really gotten to know. I’d always wondered if she really loved Chuck. Her aloofness – somewhat like Roxie’s – troubled me. Whatever had happened, my tight-mouthed brother wasn’t about to reveal. He had visiting rights with Poogie, as he called his adolescent daughter Patrice, who now lived in upstate Greenville with her mother. Which was why, according to Chuck, he’d moved there as well.
“Changing jobs was nothing. I’d‘a moved heaven and earth to be near Poogie. Not much left for me without my little girl,” he’d revealed during one of his rare somber moments. Now, to be hit with diabetes. I shook my head and dove into straightening up the den, sorting out papers and notes and stacking textbooks, trying to come to grips with yet another loved one’s unkind fate.
How much I understood his grief for his child. My sorrow merged with his and I found myself outside, cresting the back lawn’s hill, heart racing to my sacred spot of solace. There, I hugged the tall pole whose banner still swayed under a balmy breeze. Toby’s labors, though slowed, still kept the pond rippling with six to eight inches of water.
Tears streaked my cheeks and dripped from my chin.
Oh, God – please help my brother.
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“I’m nervous,” Tillie squeezed my arm with icy fingers and did a little bouncing jig as the choir filed into the loft, making her robe vibrate comically. I put my arms around her, listening for Kirk’s cue to begin the Easter Cantata.
“Tillie – your solo is the most beautiful song on the program and – ”
“That doesn’t help at all, Neecy,” she whispered, brown eyes round as donuts and nearly as big.
“Okay, just open your mouth and let ‘er fly when your time comes. Just be Tillie.” I dramatically pressed my hand to her forehead, squeezed my eyes shut, threw back my head and said, “O-o-oh, Lord – give Tillie courage! Ye-es and hallelujah! She needs it! Amen.”
A gusty giggle trailed her as she filed into the front row.
Kirk’s voice, beyond the heavy crimson velvet curtain, ceased and I took my place on the choir loft’s low platform, checked the score on my music stand and picked up my small baton, a newly acquired thing. In the past, I’d done quite well without one. I’d learned in Music Theory 102 to imagine that water dripped from my fingertips as my hand, an extension of a fluid wrist, beat out time. But I’d gone along with Kirk’s advice to use it and had only recently learned of Sarah Beauregard’s suggestion to Kirk that I would appear more proficient with a wand.
Anything to please, I always said, trying this time not to begrudge compromise.
Tonight, I rapped on the stand to bring my choristers to attention. The curtains behind me silently parted to reveal the white and purple robed chorale standing at adrenaline-charged alertness, eyeing me like hawks ready to swoop in on prey. I silently prayed a quick imploration that Nick’s exuberance not exceed the team’s volume and that Tillie would blink and expel that hypnotized glassy-stare.
Aw, heck, I raised my baton and both arms, it’s all yours, God.
Down came the baton and Heather’s fingers flew over the piano keys in a classical introduction to Crown Him with Many Crowns. Dixie’s thundering organ accompaniment added majesty and pageantry to the old hymn as the choir sang the first two verses with somber dignity, then, to everybody’s delight, launched into the third with syncopated contemporary swing. The mood lightened and by song’s end, had toes tapping and heads bobbing in time. The program continued with Charlie Tessner’s solo Were You There When they Crucified my Lord? I winked at Donna, whose pride in her brother bypassed deadpan features to shine through her eyes. Next came a medley of Blessed Redeemer, Near the Cross and Glory to His Name. By now, we were warmed up and going strong. Anointed, Aunt Mary would declare.
Tillie moved to stand beside Callie and Moose for the trio selection Because He Lives. I saw her hand tremble as she took the microphone and when our gazes met, I gave her a big smile. She straightened and began singing in a clear smooth voice, “God sent his so-o-n, they called him Je-e-sus....” On the chorus, Callie’s alto and Moose’s tenor mellowed out the melody and drew tears. On the last verse, the entire choir joined in and…
What was that sound? I angled my right ear and – oh no!
Nick.
Nick’s rust-gray head was tossed back in euphoric abandon and his caterwauling grew louder and louder... “And then as death, gives way to vi-ic-tory...I’ll see the lights of glo-o-ry and I know He li-ives!”
Tillie’s startled chocolate orbs implored me, “Do something!”
I gazed up to Heaven. Lord, please.....
Nick gazed up to Heaven, too, and burst into tears, falling gloriously silent as tears rivuleted his lined cheeks. The last chorus swelled in praise to our celebrated Lord and my weak knees flexed and set themselves for the big finale, which recapped the beginning – a majestic, rousing rendition of Crown Him with Many Crowns. By now, Nick boo-hooed as unrestrained as he sang and my baton did battle for preeminence, its tip a fanning, dancing lariat whose circumference grew and grew until, stunned, I watched it fly through the air and hit Moose smack in the face. I only missed two beats before my fingertips flung imaginary water all over the rostrum, while Tillie burst into giggles and the entire choir sang with grins as wide as possum road-kill.
The baton mysteriously disappeared the very next day.
Friday of the following week marked the college choral group’s Spring Concert. I was surprised when, on the evening of our performance, I was nearly as excited as my singing peers.
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Toby’s interest in another baby was becoming – well, a bit strained. Oh, he’d not resisted the idea at first, had sorta flowed with Heather’s enthusiasm. But as time passed, his excitement waned. I sensed he did not like to discuss this little stranger who would, in a few months time, usurp his cozy family baby rank.
Heather, on the other hand, was beside herself with joy, pampering me shamelessly, massaging my back, legs and feet with lotion. Dawn’s first movements were celebrated with tears of elation while my teenage daughter’s fingertips gently pressed and probed. And as my abdomen rounded and swelled until I no longer saw my toes, Heather gave me pedicures, painting my toenails bright, sassy colors.
In July, Toby’s sole comment was, “You’re getting kinda fat, aren’t you, Mom?”
I hugged him every chance I got and spent time with him, hoping to dispel any hovering insecurities. In late July, we vacationed in the mountains of North Carolina. At six a.m. on the second day, I awoke and surveyed from my hotel window a golden sun slowly climb up over the purple Smoky Mountain range. I’d thought this change of scenery would make me forget.
It didn’t. Tears puddled, then coursed down my cheeks. Ahh, Krissie...I miss you so.
I felt Kirk’s arms slide around me from behind. His cheek pressed against mine and our tears mingled. We shared silent moments of memory before Toby bounded from the other bedroom, ready for some adventure.
“We gon’ go to Ghost Town?” he asked, plundering an Oreo Cookie bag.
I wiped my cheeks and turned. “After lunch. The park doesn’t open till threeish.”
Toby gazed at me dubiously. “You not throwin’ up, are you, Mama?”
“No.” My smile reassured him his fun was not thwarted.
Heather and Dixie, her buddy, roused from their comatose slumber only after Kirk lured them with promises of the grandest breakfast of a lifetime at nearby Ma’s Restaurant. A meal of sausage gravy and buttermilk biscuits launched us on a tour of Maggie Valley gift shops. In one, I bought an oversized T-shirt emblazoned with mountain flowers for Callie. Kirk selected Moose a book of Redneck Jokes, then suggested I pick out something for Roxie. I finally settled on a little cedar jewelry box. I wanted to buy something for Kaye Tessner, but Kirk frowned.
“You can’t do for one church member what you can’t for all, honey.” We’d already established that our lifelong pals did not fit neatly into the ‘church-folk’ slot.
“I know.” I sighed, wishing life were different but knowing it simply could not be.
“Hey,” Kirk slapped another five dollar bill into Heather’s extended palm, “that’s it. I can’t fork out for everybody and his cousin, Heather. You’re gonna have to limit the gifts to a couple of friends. Okay?” We’d also decided to cut the kids some slack along the way, since their childhood was tied up almost exclusively with ‘church folk’.
Heather nodded as she turned away. She half-heartedly rolled her eyes but trudged on ahead with Dixie to the next shop, fully aware of her father’s generosity.
Kirk draped his arm around me as we trailed the girls and Toby, who loped along people-gaping.
“I saw Brad Chisholm last week.” Kirk said off-handedly. Brad was a local attorney with whom we’d discussed a lawsuit against Coastal Railway. I’d felt strongly that had there been a stop-gate at the trestle entrance, Krissie’s tragedy would not have happened. Still did.
“I still resent Homer Beauregard’s interference,” I said, feeling my hackles begin to rise.
Kirk’s hand tightened on my shoulder as we walked. “I know. But – many of these folks do have family who work for Coastal.”
Heaven help us,” I hissed sarcastically. “I know. The clan has spoken.” I resented that Homer Beauregard didn’t hesitate for a moment to appeal to the pastor to not sue because of longtime family ties with the railroad. I hated then and still do the fact that folk will put pastors under bondage they wouldn’t dare impose on themselves or anyone else. A sort of spiritual blackmail. A prove yourself thing. It wasn’t Homer’s child who’d been lured onto a seemingly innocuous ramp, then slaughtered.
I closed my eyes for a moment, then breathed deeply. “If Krissie had seen anything that said STOP-Danger, especially with a gate forcing her to crawl under, she’d never have gotten on that ramp. Why – she wouldn’t even completely shut the bathroom door for fear it would stick and entrap her. You know that, Kirk.”
“I know. It’s not fair,” Kirk said quietly. “But I do have an obligation to the flock. And – money won’t bring Krissie back.”
“No,” I said, “but insisting that Coastal put up those gates would ensure no one else’s child would get trapped like Krissie and Zach did.”
“Well, it’s too late to rehash it. We settled with the railroad.”
“For a pittance. What’s ten thousand dollars in the face of our Krissie’s death? Nothing. Not counting potential tragedies as a result of the railroad’s neglect to install those gates.”
“I agree. But it’s out of our hands now, honey. As Brad said, we didn’t have the resources to fight Coastal. They have the finances and the lawyers to fight spending what it takes to install those gates everywhere. It boils down to money. According to Brad, if we’d sued, the case would be tied up in litigation till Jesus comes and nothing would be accomplished anyway. We never had a chance.”
It was true. Besides, I didn’t want Coastal Railway’s money.
What I wanted couldn’t be had.
I wanted Krissie.
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I took the next semester off. Kirk and I began Lamaze classes at Summerville Medical Center in October. Up until then, I’d mostly seen my midwife Marjorie Wellon, a young married woman, whose intuitive care and knowledge amazed and calmed me. Now, Dr. Jennings added a touch of paternal care by seeing me every other visit.
With extra time on my hands during Heather and Toby’s school hours, I busied myself with projects. Since Krissie’s death, the importance of family photos shot right up there beside oxygen. I purchased endless bound albums and filled them from boxes stacked on closet shelves. One featured Krissie, another, Heather and another, Toby. I meticulously labeled and filed them. Once done, I immediately searched for something else to consume my time.
And my mind.
My body thickened and slowed, limiting my busy-ness. Then agony set in. My abdominal muscles gave way and pressure from the baby caused excruciating cramps and pain in my back and legs. I was bedridden most of the time. Other times, I only managed to get to the bathroom by crawling. Kirk begged me to let him carry me. I explained that it wouldn’t help. I had to let the baby’s weight – lodged against my sciatic nerve – drop forward to relieve teeth gnashing when I moved. This could only be accomplished by crawling on all fours.
When I went in for check-ups, Marjorie met me at the car with a wheelchair.
My hormones were still crazy and my moodiness settled down to ‘low’ melancholy and ‘high’ melancholy. Only difference being that I could function a bit more with the high. Weepiness plunged me from high to low in a wink. Yet – it was an automatic process, a chemical entity not connected to my thinking.
Pregnancy was but another reminder of Krissie. I grew desperate to reach a place of refuge, one that “time will help” had promised. Where the terrible longing would abate to bearable. Seemed the only thing time did was to separate me from my child’s being and torment me with her non-being. A deep, deep part of me wailed at the inhumane deprivation.
Another part of me thanked God for what I had left.
For at least a month after our warm bedtime talk, Toby daily carried water to Krissie’s pond, as soft sand rather quickly soaked it up. Of course, I knew this could not continue indefinitely. As his ‘do something’ grief phase ebbed, Krissie’s little pond eventually dried up. Toby moved on to yet other healing and acceptance stages.
For months, I allowed the banner and the rough-hewn bridge to remain on our yard’s secluded back corner. I couldn’t bring myself to part with it. Rain faded the letters and the wood began to crumble, but the message remained alive. Time passed, and it continued to comfort me.
Late one warm October afternoon, during a short respite from the horrible muscle spasms, I stood on the ramp in the silence. And then birdsong penetrated my haze, sweetly transporting me to a plane of peace. I knew in that moment that though Toby’s grief was not always as visible, his tribute to Krissie surpassed all others. I knew also that his gift extended to me.
If Toby could turn loose, so could I. A soft breeze ruffled my hair and drew my damp face upward. I looked beyond the tall pines into frothy white clouds and infinite blue.
I realized this visit to the pond would be my last.
Because I knew what Toby, with a child’s simplicity, already knew: in the Lord, we never truly lose someone we love. Their essence remains forever in our hearts.
I placed a hand over the growing mound inside me. This is your baby, my sweet daughter.
I blew a kiss and whispered. “I love you, Krissie.” I turned and walked away.